“I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.
When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time. Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.
The post-millennial midlife crisis isn’t buying a red sports car. It’s realizing you can’t have that career you now want. It’s realizing you can’t have that child you now want, or you can’t give your child a sibling. Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves and say about their 20s, “What was I doing? What was I thinking?”
So here’s an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know: Thirty is NOT the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.
Don’t be defined by what you didn’t know or didn’t do.
You’re deciding your life right now.”